Today I am posting two 'Kim to the Rescue' items because they are totally related. Read on to see what I mean...

Kim,

Your advice is amazing. I'm half Italian and half Middle Eastern. My parents will never understand. I have been dating the love of my life on-and-off for six years... He happens to be black. Any advice on how to break the news to them without them disowning me?

(By the way: Not every guy cheats. If I were a guy, and I had someone as incredible as you, I would never cheat. Reggie seems like an amazing man. Perfect couple.)

Sincerely,
MiddleEasternPrincess


Hey Kim,

I have some of the same issues. I have a dad that's Iranian, and he doesn't care about the race of people I date. But for some reason, my mom really wants me to date an Iranian guy because they don't believe in divorce. I think just because someone doesn't believe in divorce, that should be the only reason to marry them. I haven't ever really been attracted to an Iranian guy. And for some reason I just don't think I ever will be. I'm usually attracted to white guys just because that is who I have grown up around. My cousin is getting married soon, and his fiancee has a really attractive brother. He's white, and I really like him. Do you think I should go for it, or do you think I shouldn't? We aren't going to be first cousins or anything, so that really isn't an issue. I really need advice...

From,
Shaydah

Hey Kim,

I'm 16 and just wondering if you have any advice for me?... I met this guy named Amir and he was really cute, tall and I liked everything about him. Things progressed and we stared to like each other. He told me he liked me, but the problem is he moved away.  We still talk over MySpace. I try to get over him but it's so hard because the rest of the guys at my school are mostly probably jerks—but he wasn't. What should I do?

Peace out,

Ashley Rodriguez


Kim,

I love your style. I just wish I had your body...LOL. I just had a baby and I need to lose weight really soon for a wedding... What do you suggest??

Signed,

Baby Phat

Dear Kim,

I am a single parent to a seven-year-old. I am 27 years old also. I need help finding a man who is as sweet and caring as Reggie Bush and is willing to step to the plate and accept the role as a dad. I have trouble because my daughter's father committed suicide when she was five-months-old. Ever since I have not been able to find someone who really cares about us. I am very careful not to bring them around my daughter. A lot of guys tell me that I am wife material but they are not ready to be in that type of relationship. Can I have some pointers on how to catch a real man?

From,
Antoinette

Dear Kim,

You always seem to have confidence in yourself. I, however, lack confidence. Everyone says that I'm a pretty girl, but I feel that I'm not. Whenever I'm with my friends, they always get more attention from guys... and they aren't "all-that" great looking. I've got personality, and they don't. I always find myself comparing their body types to mine, because they are size zeroes, and that makes me think that guys always go for the thin ones. How can I stop comparing and start to feel comfortable in my own skin and feel more confident?

Sincerely,

Not Confident

Dear Kim,

There is this boy and I like him... I was told that he was going to ask me out; but the thing is he has dated two of my best friends, he is rude and treats me different when were around people (but when we are alone he is really sweet)... I always forgive him and whenever I look into his eyes I get lost and I forget everything... Some things he says are deep and others are too childish. Please Kim—HELP!! What do I do?

Sincerely,

Lovechild In Trouble

Kim,

I met this guy who seems really sweet. The thing is I'm only 21 years old and he is 30! Do you think age difference is a major issue in relationships?

Deciding,
Anna

Christina says:

You guys crack me up. Kim I know you have a workout video online that we can download... I saw on E! like a year ago when u made it!

I recently had a baby and I feel like crap. I was wondering if you or your mom had some tips on how to get confidence. I use to feel pretty but not anymore. I try to exercise but I get discouraged.

Maybe if you or your sis had time to talk about health and how to get healthy it would make it easier to have faith that someone cares and believes that heavier people can change and be as pretty as u guys r.

Dear Kim,

My ex moved [away] and is not responding to my emails even though he told me to email. I don't know whether that means he hates me. I really don't want him to hate me. Does that make me clingy? This seems like a dumb thing to be worrying about but it is really a main focus in my life right now. I feel really hurt... Please give me some advice. Tell me what you think about my situation.

Thanks Kim,

Confused

UPDATE:  My dad's mom, my Nana, passed away Thursday and her funeral is tomorrow. I hear you, Christy, and I know all too well how you feel.

Dear Kim,  (The following was first published on Thursday, May, 22)

I love you and your family so much! I saw your show today (LOL). Y'all are going to make Khloe go crazy! But it was funny and you're right: She does need someone to share her life with... no matter what she says! LOL!

Well, I know you are so sweet and full of advice so... I had a sister pass away a little over a year ago. She lived a tough life and she eventually ended up committing suicide. It was so tough for my family and I just can't learn to deal with it even after a long year!! I know you had to deal with the loss of your father so I was wondering if you had any tips to help me with this??

Thanks and love you so much :)

Christy

Dear Kim,

My boyfriend's friend is a moper and is always hanging around when I'd rather be alone with my boyfriend. My boyfriend says if I'd set his friend up with one of my girlfriends, then maybe he'd find something to do on his own. But he's too much of a mope and I can't put him on any of my girls.

How do I convince my boyfriend to drop this dead weight?

Signed,
Three's a Crowd

Dear Kim,

My parents don't trust me to choose my own boyfriend. Did you ever have this problem?

Signed,
Plagued with Pushy Parents

One of my readers is seeking my advice about plastic surgery. You may be surprised by my answer. Watch my video here!

Would you ever go under the knife? And under what circumstances? Let me know in the comments section!

One member of my site has been confronted with an issue that has definitely hit close to home for me in the past. I have learned how to navigate the situation when a loved one is not necessarily thrilled about my choice of boyfriend. Watch my video as I give advice on how to deal with loved ones who need to accept that you are dating outside of your race.

Dear Kim,

Three years ago, I had a nightmare relationship with a man who cheated and took advantage of me financially. I've moved on and have forgiven him. It wasn't really his fault, and he's made amends since. The problem is that my fiancé brings up this past relationship whenever he wants to question my judgment. I've told my fiancé that he hurts my feelings when he throws my past in my face. How can I make him stop?

Signed,
Paying for the Past

Dear Kim,

I have really thick, curly hair and would love to find an easy way to get it straight without frying it or using too much product OR paying a million dollars for it to be professionally blown-out! Any ideas on the best way to straighten curls without killing them?

Signed,
Curly Girl

Need to know how to handle a player? Watch my video as I answer Tiffani's question about a guy she likes.

Dear Kim,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years and it seems like lately the fires have gone out. He just doesn’t try and impress me anymore, or do anything to make me feel special. What can I do to get him to stop watching basketball and take me out on a Saturday night for a change?

Signed,
Spark-less in Seattle

Dear Kim,

I'm only 28 years old, but I want to start early in preventing wrinkles. Any advice on a good eye/skin cream that's not for grannies?

Signed,
Staying Young